“If you don’t let go of your resentment, if you refuse to forgive others, you’ll be robbing yourself of your heavenly Father’s forgiveness.” Matthew 6:15
Have you ever been hurt by someone or shocked by something someone did? Have you ever met someone that brought out qualities of your personality that made you uncomfortable? Well, we have all been there. Every one of us has somewhere along the road either been the cause of someone’s hurt or else been hurt by someone. Most likely, it was someone close, a good friend or family or a special someone. The real question is… How did you respond?
You may say, “so-and-so caused it!” But so what? The Bible says to turn the other cheek. Forgive and let go.
If someone has wronged you, it can be painful. But you have the ability to turn the situation around. Don’t harbor vindictive thoughts about that person. Don’t become resentful. They may have started it, but you can choose whether to keep it alive or not. The choice is yours. If you don’t forgive, you are the one inflicting the pain on yourself, and most likely, others around you will be affected.
Are you really willing to be the negative force that keeps the bad situation going? “But I’m right!”, that doesn’t matter. You may be right, you may be wrong. What matters is not whether your argument or motives are correct, what matters is what you do.
The Bible says to forgive others as your heavenly Father has forgiven you. That means entirely. It doesn’t say forgive them if you feel like it. It gives the most wholesome example of forgiveness.. that of our Lord and Saviour. If you cannot seem to forgive the trespasses of a friend, how can you expect to be forgiven yourself? It is the equivalent of putting yourself on higher ground than your fellow man. But who are you? Are you God? Dare you say that you are perfect? Forgive as your heavenly Father has forgiven you… As wretched a sinner as you are, your heavenly Father forgives you! Day in and day out, no matter the transgression. And you, dear Christian, are called to be like Him. You are called to forgive as He has forgiven. Forgive entirely! Holding a grudge isn’t Christlike! It’s wrong! Don’t return the grievance or hold it over another’s head. Don’t keep the strife going. Don’t let the anguish take hold. Forgive and forget! Move on, and allow the grievance to die.
Forgive others as quickly as we expect God to forgive us.
“God can restore what is broken and change it into something amazing. All you need is faith.” ~ Joel 2:25
“To worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do.” ~ Job 5:2
Forgiveness isn’t a feeling. If you don’t feel like you can forgive, then take it to the Lord. Ask Him for the grace and the strength to do it. He will not fail you.
And above all, pray. Pray without ceasing. Always take your burdens and your joys to the Lord.
Lord, help me forgive my offender. I need Your perspective and peace to replace the poison of resentment from welling up in my heart.